Forgiveness Ceremony!
In this post you will find a Forgiveness Ceremony that can help release and balance any negative karma between you and another; a spouse, a friend, a child, an enemy, yourself, a lover or a parent.
Find the Ceremony at the end. Or read more about forgiveness below.
TIMING: FULL MOON, WANING MOON
Why do we need to forgive?
We all have been hurt, lied to, let down, been taken advantage of or in any other way been damaged by our relationships to other people. We carry anger, sadness, bitterness and resentment towards others because of these experiences. These emotions keep our heart closed and destroy the potential in our future relationships.
If you feel angry, bitter or resentful towards somebody in your life, you have not moved on, even if you do not have any physical contact with them. You are energetically still feeding the person who did you wrong and the past in a negative way. Either it is your parents, an ex partner or and old friend. If you can not forgive you might project this pain onto people who do not deserve it.
The unhealed wounds are rotting inside of you and are steeling your life force. You keep on hurting yourself because you are holding onto the pain. The pain follows you around and you start piling up hurt upon hurt.
Forgiveness is the only thing that can release you from the burden of carrying other peoples wrongdoings. You need to forgive to release yourself.
Why do people hurt each other?
Have you ever done yourself wrong or let yourself down? Think about it, it's very likely. If you can disappoint yourself and hurt yourself, then imagine how inevitable it is to hurt others.
It seems to be an unavoidable part of our nature. AND we are all guilty. Either you hurt somebody by doing something, even unintentionally. Or you hurt somebody by not doing something.
Different expectations, difference in value system, different communication styles and each one of us with our own unique perspective. These are all things that can contribute to hurting others.
We also hurt others because we are hurt ourselves.We can project our own pain on others. At the end we can not treat people better then we are treating ourselves. If we dont respect ourselves or are honest with ourselves, how can we show respect and honesty towards others?
And finally we hurt others because we can not forsee all the consequences of our actions. Life is to complexe, it is too big to never make a mistake. Most people are not intentionally trying to hurt others, it just happens. From time to time. Nobody is perfect. We are all innocent children of this universe. We do not know what we do not know. Our understanding is limited. We do not know all. We are learning and growing. We usually end up hurting other people due to lack of understanding and because we have different expectations and are on different levels of maturity and wisdom.
Taking it too personal?
Have you ever asked yourself this? How could they. Why? Why did they do this to me? The first step towards forgiveness is to stop taking things personal. When somebody mistreats us it hurts partly because we take it personal. We make it about us. It happened to me! How could they do this to me! We build resentment and we get angry because we feel like we do not deserve it. We get upset because we start to question whether or not the person who hurt us thought we deserved it. How could they think it was okey to behave like this towards us? And we do not deserve it, it has nothing to do with deservingness at all. It has nothing to do with you at all. Not what you deserve nor how much the other person values you.
The truth is, it is never about you. It is about them. If a person lies to you, has nothing to do with you. They lie because they are liars. It is their character that makes them lie, and not because you deserve it. Like I mentioned above there are many reasons why we hurt others and none of them are personal. If you can learn not to take it personal you create detachment and become an observer. It is then easier to forgive and to release.
What does forgiveness mean?
Forgiveness means to clean the slate. To start over. To be reborn. Leave the past in the past. To return to innocence. To return to wholeness despite the pain. It is an act of compassion. To say I love despite this. You love in the place where the other person could not love you. You pour love into the wound and heal it.
The Forgiveness Ceremony
Here is the description of the Ceremony. Please read through it all before proceeding. You might need to buy some things for this Ceremony.
TIME: Give yourself at least an evening. Best on Full Moons. The ritual will take at least 30 minutes to complete.
SETTING: Be alone, have space for privacy.
YOU NEED: A Candle*A Paper *A Pen*Incense*A Lighter*A White Rose(You can also visualize a white rose)*A photo of the person you need to forgive(you can also use photos on your phone)
DO LIKE THIS:
* Sit down in your room. Place the candle in front of you with the photo behind the candle.
* Clear your space with incense.
* Light your candle and call in your Spirit Guides. Jesus, AA Michael and the Higher Self of the person you wish to forgive. Say out loud "Archangel Michael, Jesus and Spirit Guides, help me as I perform this Forgiveness Ceremony to forgive x, I ask x higher self to witness this Forgiveness Ceremony.
* Write a letter to the person. In this letter you write down what you feel they did to you, how you experienced it and how it has affected you.
* Read the letter out loud while looking at the photo of the person.
* When the letter has been read. Say out loud while tearing the paper apart "What has been done, is done and it lies in the past, I now forgive you and myself".
* Burn the letter. Say out loud:"I release any negative karma that has been formed between us".
* Go to the window and release the ashes into the wind. Say out loud "The past is gone and forgiven, I don't wish to carry this pain anymore".
* Sit down and pick up the White Rose. Close your eyes and imagine and visualize yourself meeting this person and handing them this Rose. Tell them you forgive them in your own words.
* Open your eyes and call in AA Michael. Say out loud. "AA Michael please help to cut any cords of negative attachment between me and x".
* The Ceremony is now complete, turn off the candle and thank your guides for participating. Say out loud: Archangel Michael, Jesus and Spirit Guides, thank you for supporting me. The Ceremony is now complete.
You can either save the rose. Or dispel of it in nature.
Thank you for reading. I hope this will help you in your healing process. Do contact me if you have any questions.
With Love, Shanti Joy
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